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THE GRATITUDE OF STELLA REINE


STELLA REINE is an American singer-songwriter based in Los Angeles, California. She released her first EP, Lucky Ones, back in 2015 and has since continued to write and release new music monthly. Stella's music is a collaboration of moody/alternative/west-coast pop songs inspired by her experiences in life with love and loss.


Stella Reine's music is composed of hauntingly honest lyrics, sexy laments, and empowering messages for women. Stella is passionate about using her voice to inspire her audience to be vulnerable and unapologetic about who they are. Stella Reine is inspired by artists such as Jeff Buckley, Fiona Apple, Heart, Lana Del Rey and Avril Lavigne.


Please share a story that includes a happy memory as an artist and has made a huge impact on your artistry.


I don't yet have one specific happy memory, but more of a lifetime of happy memories filled with music, theory, and passion. My Dad was music obsessed and educated and since my brother and I were infants, he would blast his music all day and night throughout the house. Most parents make sure the house is nice and quiet when it is time to put the babies down for bed, but not in my house. This baby went to bed every night with the magical sounds of Supertamp echoing through the walls of our house, volume not a consideration. But it is thanks to my incredible Dad that my brother and I have the taste in music that we do and the passion to keep good music alive.


How do you choose to lead a Happy Healthy life as an artist?


One thing I make sure to do is not focus too much on people and how far along they are in their own journey. It can be really difficult seeing other artists my age who seem to be so much further along in their career, but it is important to remember that we are all different, we are all special, and other peoples' timelines of success do not define your own. I am a big believer in Universal Intelligence, manifestation, and gratitude. I believe our minds create our reality and so long as we have unshakable faith and continue to put in effort toward our goals, we will succeed and achieve our wildest dreams.


Who did you learn from to instill those values?


I have a few important influences in my life. My current producer Simon Jay is filled with wisdom and wonderful advice, but one of the most encouraging things he has ever said was that, "success is just consistent effort over time". I have a tendency to be anxious and overthink everything, but that little piece of wisdom helps me to take things one day at a time instead of constantly worrying about the "what if's" of the future that don't actually exist. Many of my other beliefs about gratitude and manifestation come from reading self-help books, in particular, "You Are A Badass" and "You Are A Badass At Making Money" by Jen Sincero. Sincero's books have helped me so much in recognizing my inner strength, confidence, and power. Whether or not Jen is correct about if the Universe is listening to us, she makes me BELIEVE that it is. When you believe in something undoubtedly then you let nothing in your conscious or subconscious stop you from going out and reaching your full potential. Lastly, my Mom has always been my biggest fan and supporter. Whenever I start to doubt myself, my Mom is always there to remind me that I was born with a really beautiful gift that the world wants to hear.


Was it hard work to make sure that you focused on your well-being and not only your art?


Absolutely. Focusing on your well-being is one of the hardest things we humans have to do, especially with our busy lives and all of the people and things we have to tend to. I still can't with full honesty tell you that I am a super healthy person mentally or physically. I think that ebbs and flows. I have issues with eating, sleeping, anxiety, self-doubt, confidence...but I am human and I will never stop trying to be the best version of myself. I am in a state of constant growth.


Was there a turning point of how you decided to put yourself first?


Yes, the turning point in my life was December 2020 when I lost my Father to cancer. My Dad was diagnosed with bladder cancer in October 2019 and because he was such a wonderful candidate for immunotherapy, we basically spent that entire year thinking my Dad would live. One morning I woke up and my mom told me we needed to put my Dad in hospice because of where the tumor had moved, my Dad was now immobile. I had the privilege (and horror) of spending the next 10 days by my Dad's side in our family home having final conversations. Though these 10 days were some of the most heartbreaking moments I have ever had to endure, they were also some of the most important. As I was having to wrap my mind around saying Goodbye to my poor, sweet Dad something started happening to me. Prior to my Dad's death I struggled with anxiety everyday that was so debilitating I would get physically sick throughout the day, several times a day, every day. Post-death, miraculously, I am much more calm. I am much more able to live in the moment and take things day by day. Perhaps this happened because nothing could ever hurt me as much as this, but I also think that I had to learn the hard way that life just does not need to be taken so seriously. The people you love in your life are pretty much the only thing that truly matters and your own happiness, because time is not a guarantee so we must make the best out of every moment. I now have a lot less time for people or things that don't make me happy or make me better.


How do you like to promote a healthy lifestyle?


One of my favorite quotes, "It is not the happiest people who are the most grateful, it is the most grateful people who are the happiest ''. Gratitude, gratitude, gratitude. I can't stress this enough!! When you are constantly finding things to be grateful for, it is very difficult to find things to be unhappy about.


In what ways are you connecting with fans to check in on each other?


I do my very best to respond to everyone's comments, emails, and DM's. I like my fans to know that I am human just like them. No matter my level of success I always want to be down to earth, approachable, and thankful to my fans. I also love engaging with them on Instagram stories. I'll ask questions in my story like, "What are you doing to take care of yourself today?" or "What is something that you are looking forward to this week?", and I will always respond to everyone who replies.


Who checks in on YOU when you need it most?


I have my boyfriend Kevin, my brother, and some good friends who are always there for me.


Changing habits can be hard. Which was the habit that you had to change and how it's changed your life now?


One thing I used to struggle with is the way I would choose to express myself if I was upset. If I were upset in my household with my brother or parents I might yell when I was really frustrated, but that never made me feel good to act like that. I do not feel good raising my voice at others, nor do I think it is my place, ever. But, you know how it is, sometimes you're so mad or hurt in the moment that you just can't help but to lash out. I remember a few years back after something like that had happened, my wise-beyond-his-years big brother taught me a life lesson that I'll never forget. He used one of his favorite comedians as an example who also happened to struggle in a similar way. The comedian was Sarah Silverman and she crowned herself, "The Queen of Positivity". The lesson was about patterns of emotions and how we can actually break those patterns and choose not to react the way we do when we get upset. So yes, it is ok to be mad and feel things, your feelings are ALWAYS valid. But, it is what you choose to do with those emotions that is important. YOU DO NOT HAVE TO REACT THE WAY YOU ALWAYS DO! Make a mindful effort to change your patterns when you feel yourself getting upset. Once I finally realized that I could feel something without having to react to it, it changed my life AND my relationships. Instead now when I feel upset, I take a couple deep breaths (totally underrated), decide whether or not this is an issue even worth discussing or being upset about, and if I decide that the issue is still worth the discussion then I choose to express myself in a very calm, proactive, and respectful way. I have found that things get resolved a lot faster, less problems occur, and I am a lot happier and more peaceful within being able to have such good control over my emotions.


Is there a song, book, movie, show, or anything that always gives you the motivation you need?


Listening to any music that I love gives me motivation to keep going, but I really try to get motivated anyway I can. Anything that makes me smile are my go-to resources. The Office, music, my brother, Jen Sincero and her self-help books, my producer Simon, my best friend Noah, my boyfriend Kevin, my Mommy, my sweet Dad. All of those are excellent resources when I need a bit of motivation. But, especially my Dad. Since my Dad's death, I strive even more to make him proud. In the last 6 months I was actually able to quit my day job and earn my income solely from music. I wish my Dad were here to see that, but I am just going to work so hard to never have a 9-5 again and just live off of doing what I love. Music. My Dad would be so happy.


What is the mantra of 2022?!


Desperation repels, gratitude attracts.


Give all the inside scoop on your latest project!


I am currently taking a small break from recording music and just entering a time of freedom and creativity. I was given VIP tickets to Coachella this year which was so cool because it was my first time and while I was there I had a revelation about myself and my music. Currently I make music in the Pop genre and I chose to do that because that felt like the smart thing to do and even though I love my portfolio of music, it doesn't fully feel like me. The music I grew up listening to was that of Fleetwood Mac, Elton John, Heart, The Beatles, Jeff Buckley, The Rolling Stones etc..that is the music that feeds my soul. So, my music is evolving because instead of making the music I think I should make, I am going to start making music that I want to make. I want to bring that Fleetwood Mac groove into a modern day vibe, so that is what I am currently working on. Coachella helped me realize that there is an audience for every type of music and I really just need to be creating music that I am passionate about no matter what.


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